tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post6222299815255536425..comments2023-05-15T06:47:29.116-04:00Comments on Alana-isms: Emotional StrugglesAlanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07890079014330244123noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-45851228892877440292009-09-19T20:22:05.226-04:002009-09-19T20:22:05.226-04:00Hugs to you!!!!Hugs to you!!!!Danifredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12719013628912766337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-79441390465651869472009-09-19T00:38:03.520-04:002009-09-19T00:38:03.520-04:00I feel the same way about a close friend of mine. ...I feel the same way about a close friend of mine. We were pregnant together three years ago, both had little boys. My little boy was born w/ a genetic disorder and needed a liver transplant. We waited 6 months, he never got one, and passed away 2 weeks before his 1st birthday. <br /><br />Its almost been one year since he died. I am almost "okay"...I see little boys his age and don't instantly feel like someone punched me, I can babysit for others' kids. <br /><br />But her son...I just can't be around him. Its so sad, but he reminds me of my son too much. I feel like a jerk a too sometimes. Its hurt my friendship w/ her, but it is what it is. I have to protect my heart.<br /><br />Maybe someday I will be able to move past it. Just know you aren't alone in your feelings. And that theyre just that...feelings. You can't help what you feel. *hug*<br /><br />~Bethany<br />Angel Gavin's mom{ Bethany }https://www.blogger.com/profile/08390799154032651714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-43481756921596655242009-09-17T23:31:12.212-04:002009-09-17T23:31:12.212-04:00I'm sorry....{{}} When I was pregnant with my...I'm sorry....{{}} When I was pregnant with my first daughter, three other women where I taught were also pregnant. We were due within a few months of each other. My daughter was stillborn. Losing her was so hard; and being reminded of the lives that flourished was also painful, as I faced my friends and their babies.<br /><br />Now, 17 years later, those same children are a marker for me. I see a little bit of Sara, as she would be, whenever a Christmas card arrives, etc. As time goes by, perhaps your hurt will ease, if you remain in contact with AB. Hugs, again--ChrissyChrissyhttp://singalullaby.typepad.com/com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-64708704885446685732009-09-17T20:58:58.422-04:002009-09-17T20:58:58.422-04:00So sorry this is tough. I think it is fine for yo...So sorry this is tough. I think it is fine for you to avoid her--its okay, and she should be understanding enough to not be offended. You will face her eventually, but only when you are ready.Delennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12567889031642608101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-90965504243859480722009-09-17T19:12:31.092-04:002009-09-17T19:12:31.092-04:00I vote no on the jerk thing. Because that would ma...I vote no on the jerk thing. Because that would make almost every person who has endured IF a jerk.<br /><br />Healing happens not in a straight line but in a spiral. Be gentle with yourself.<br /><br />And vent away!Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-7609523636022712622009-09-17T16:37:12.092-04:002009-09-17T16:37:12.092-04:00Man, I hear you.Man, I hear you.Jendeishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11960909534349311223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-53941978579631948732009-09-15T21:30:08.210-04:002009-09-15T21:30:08.210-04:00When we couldn't get pregnant, I started to ge...When we couldn't get pregnant, I started to get so angry at pregnant women, it scared me. I think it is a normal feeling and reaction to have.<br /><br />((HUGS))tbonegrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051899488480345902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-27014410051221147052009-09-15T16:36:13.332-04:002009-09-15T16:36:13.332-04:00I'm a "lurker" without my own blog. ...I'm a "lurker" without my own blog. I was moved by your post and can definitely relate to wanting to avoid pregnant friends and family members.<br /><br />Hugs!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-5582204580620711142009-09-15T15:14:34.882-04:002009-09-15T15:14:34.882-04:00Don't be hard on yourself, Alana. What you ar...Don't be hard on yourself, Alana. What you are going through is normal! There are still certain emails that I don't read... pictures I delete without looking... there are just places that our hearts don't want to go right now. And that's totally, completely okay. IF is difficult (to say the least) and sometimes we have to protect ourselves.<br /><br />Thinking of you.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10964875388384777306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-16897688746362692222009-09-15T07:47:22.236-04:002009-09-15T07:47:22.236-04:00I can so relate to your post. I have had similiar...I can so relate to your post. I have had similiar experiences, and continue to have them.<br /><br />It is a struggle to stay "engaged" with certain friends and family when these feeling come up. You are doing the best you can!!! Remember that.Shellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11069416566542236599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-84589643412439075852009-09-15T07:04:45.687-04:002009-09-15T07:04:45.687-04:00No matter how long it has been, that wound is stil...No matter how long it has been, that wound is still there. Of course seeing someone who should have been you is just opening up that sore. You have every right to feel the way you do. Hugs.Carrie27https://www.blogger.com/profile/01067539967893759094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-48918832794478465702009-09-15T01:26:47.942-04:002009-09-15T01:26:47.942-04:00You are not a jerk in any way, shape, or form! I ...You are not a jerk in any way, shape, or form! I think your feelings are completely normal, and truthfully, I am quite impressed (and a bit jealous) that you recognize and acknowledge them. Big hugs to you.<br /><br />(And never apologize for what you write - YOUR blog, YOUR thoughts, YOUR feelings.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-83307639692973340562009-09-15T01:05:38.352-04:002009-09-15T01:05:38.352-04:00I'm sorry sweetie! You're NOT a jerk, at a...I'm sorry sweetie! You're NOT a jerk, at all! It's hard, we know and understand that. It takes time for your heart to heal. It all comes and goes.<br /><br />Sending you lots of love and peace, sweetie.<br />*HUGS*Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-3111011212091844032009-09-15T00:48:48.381-04:002009-09-15T00:48:48.381-04:00(((hugs)))
I am sorry that you are facing this di...(((hugs)))<br /><br />I am sorry that you are facing this difficult time... You never ever have to apologize for what you are feeling! I know that when you feel strong enough, you will be able to celebrate with your friend, and it will be from the heart. Until then, do what you have to do to protect your heart... and know that there are many out here in bloggy land that are supporting you in our thoughts and prayers!Mrs. Gamgeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18351339333625358960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1796084151631762800.post-79631240437060573102009-09-14T23:02:01.183-04:002009-09-14T23:02:01.183-04:00I am so sorry...and you definitely don't have ...I am so sorry...and you definitely don't have to apologize for the "tone" of your blog. It's a great place for you to come whenever you have something you need to talk about or vent about. Sending you digital *hugs* and hoping that everything gets better for you soon!!!sklay723https://www.blogger.com/profile/00163821370024545890noreply@blogger.com